Assuming The Sale: She Looks For Reason Not To Date Her
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I wrote an article a while back entitled: Girls look for reasons not to date you, and although i still agree with it, i had an encounter during conversations with a few girls recently that changed my stance a little. This is difficult because although you are not supposed to listen to what she says but pay attention to her actions, you can still be left quite confused.
The action of disqualifying you or herself in a relationship, hook up, whatever can leave one bewildered and confused. One of many of the myriad of insanity trips when talking with girls that can leave you stranded in the middle of the maze with the menacing minotaur bearing down on you, and if you didn’t bring a piece of string with you, you’re done for.
So it comes down to when there are times that girls are telling you all the reasons why she shouldn’t date you, or that you aren’t a good match. I was saying before that its a shit test, and it is, and that you need to just basically lie to her, be aloof and misdirect, this is a good technique, but it’s not complete. For we must understand why women suddenly switch off, do a turn around, or try and ruin your burgeoning relationship, or interaction before it takes off. And it’s something i wasn’t aware of when i wrote the previous article but i think it needs to be added to it. Hey i’m not perfect, i can admit i make mistakes and i’m still learning – there is no peak of alphaness or knowledge, we must always be striving to grow, i am no different.
It has occurred to me, that this behaviour stems only from girls insecurity. And more importantly her insecurity about you, or about keeping your interest. It may sound strange to noobs who haven’t had this reaction yet, but when you get good with women, and are a high value man, where they think or know that you can bang girls when ever you want – she will be a teeming bag of insecurity – her hamster (as per Roissy) will be spinning out of control trying to come up with ways that you will find her special – and in the wake of this, will be so afraid of investing, opening her legs, letting you in, anything that would lead the interaction forward, that she’ll try and blow the whole thing up prematurely. I know this seems counter-intuitive, because it is, but we’re dealing with girls here, and in the wake of a high value man, they fear the under tow of the crashing wave of seduction.
This is where assuming the sale is a tried and true method in all interactions with women. Coming at this situation the wrong way will get you in the position where she feels safe and secure – with out you in her life. As much as she loves the excitement you bring to her, she’s deathly afraid of it. (Perhaps a reason why girls get together with beta’s at all, they’re safe – unfortunately for the poor beta’s this just gives them a safety net to open their legs for alpha’s with out risk of them being alone after the alpha leaves.).
Now the reason i bring this up, as like my previous article it can seem when she’s doing this, that she’s trying to break up with you because she doesn’t like you, or that there’s something wrong with you – that you did something – it’s what drives beta men crazy. So another tried and true method is not taking her seriously, and not letting her affect you – easily attained by simply assuming the sale. Once you assume that she’s into you so much her hamster is dying of exhaustion, then you can deflect her concerns like a slugger in batting practice. This attitude will give you the right frame in order to converse with her in a confident manner and provide her the comfort that you won’t be judging her and tossing her aside. What she’s really doing: Throwing her insecurities at you in a massive shit test to see how you react to her insanity. If you can with stand this like a rock, with out reacting to her craziness, then you pass, and you get to collect 200$. Her insecurities will fade and she’ll fall into your lap – she wants a strong man – a man who can handle her craziness – someone who will stand tall against her whirlwinds and tantrums, be unaffected and takes her in her arms to protect her from, well, from herself.
You will get the check list defense we wrote about in our first article more on the pick up, or first interaction state – this is where she’s both sizing you up and looking for reasons for you two to not fuck, or go out. This is the same insecurity, as if she didn’t have any interest she wouldn’t be doing this – assume the sale and plow ahead. After the bang getting into a relationship, you will get it in more subversive forms, trickier to spot, like little land mines ready to go off if you step unawares of it’s location. Again assume the sale and plow on, reassuring her that you find her insatiably sexy – and fuck her good.
These situation is a reminder that the correct alpha frame of always being in control, and always assuming the sale is the frame you must have always. For if you aren’t, you’ll start believing what a girl is saying and doing to you – and then you are in a real tail spin.
